Chances are you have heard someone say that moms are the most selfless people in the world. We think this is an incomplete statement...
PARENTS are the most selfless people in the world.
It's true that new babies need their mom. But she needs YOU and the sacrifices in patience are real.
As your baby gets a little older they start to know you and love you, and now you are trying to keep your girl sane while changing diapers, playing, and still going to work.
Once they become toddlers and little kids, forget about it. Everyone is screaming, you are never doing enough (according to her)... and you still have to work! Life can become insane.
"Self care means giving your child the best of you instead of what is left in you"
It is natural for a man to want to give everything they have to their family, and sacrifice themselves. But this is not the best way.
PUT YOUR OXYGEN MASK ON FIRST!
Happy kids come from happy parents. The only way that your kid will be happy is if you do whatever it is that makes YOU happy, relaxed, and have a zest for life.
Kids are sponges. They see how you act and they feel what you feel. If a parent is exhausted and stressed out they feel it and they learn that this is normal.
You want to teach your kid that life is good, and life is joyful.
Not that you can't be busy and stressed at times, but the normal setpoint of life should be contentment. Your kids need to see this.
So think about what you REALLY want and what would really make you happy... and do it.
When your kid is older there is a good chance they will do the same thing for themselves.