How To Worry About Your Kids Less

Remember when you were young and free and didn't have a care in the world? You stayed up all night chillin with your boys, hit the club, had some drinks, and slept till noon the next day. Life was easy and nothing bothered you.

When you have a kid things change. All of a sudden the world becomes a scary place and you worry. Every parent wants their kid to have a happy and peaceful life. But what if they get bullied in school? What if they can't keep up with the other kids in their class? God forbid they have a mean teacher!

The desire to protect your kid is primal, and can take over like the plague. But studies have shown that up to a certain point challenges for kids are very healthy.

Adversity builds emotional strength!

Learning how to cope with adversity is actually an important part of child development. When we are threatened, our bodies activate a variety of physiological responses, including increases in the heart rate, blood pressure, and stress hormones such as cortisol. When a young child is protected by supporting relationships with adults, he learns to cope with everyday challenges and his stress response system returns to baseline. Scientists call this positive stress.

The key here is that the kid is protected by a supportive relationship with you!

What we're basically saying is that as long as you love and support your kid they actually need some hardships in life in order to learn how to cope at an early age. It trains them to deal with the real world in a healthy way.

So instead of worrying about the challenges, celebrate them. Helping your kid get through these is actually one of the most important things that you will teach them in life.